Mother's Day is a really special day, especially for new moms. It can bring about a lot of emotions never experienced before as this day takes on a new meaning. For many women, they choose to celebrate Mother's Day even when they are expecting, and I believe this is the best thing you can do to highlight a big milestone.
However, a lot of people wouldn't agree with this notion. There is a belief that you can only celebrate once the child is born as that is when motherhood begins. Well, I challenge this belief as women make many sacrifices when expecting. Here are just some reasons why expecting moms should be allowed to celebrate Mother's Day.
1. We do whatever it takes to take care of our baby/babies: during pregnancy we are extremely vulnerable to things that we could normally do, which sucks because some of those things are REALLY FUN. No more roller coasters, social drinking, going into a hot tub, travel (after a certain period in your pregnancy), etc. You never realize how much fun or how often you do something until it is forbidden. So don't plan on riding any Harry Potter rides for the next 9 to 10 months.
2. Food Sacrifices: now when we think of pregnant women, we think of cravings at 3 am, ice cream and pickles, but that doesn't always happen. Some women simply have a hard time enjoying food because of morning sickness. Even some of their favorite food are off limits. Now while you may be thinking "food sacrifices that's not a big deal," I beg to differ. At least for me, food is life! I live for a nice sushi platter or deli meat (and yes some deli meats are not good for pregnant women). Food is awesome and to not be able to eat some things is the worst.
3. Expecting is exhausting: while being a mom is exhausting, so is expecting. Our energy is completely drained by the growing child inside of us. So while we may not be tired because we are up all night changing diapers, we are still exhausted. Sometimes moving two feet can drain us easily. Not to mention we can't enjoy something to help boost our energy called coffee.
So to all the expecting moms and moms out there, don't let anyone tell you that you can't celebrate Mother's Day. This also goes to all the moms out there who may not have conceived a child but still filled the role as mom, because that is the biggest decision a person can make.
So I wanted to thank all moms out there. That includes moms, step-moms, mothers-in-laws, expecting moms, aunts, grand moms and even dads!
Written by: Jessica Jefferson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Perinatal Mental Health Counselor and Owner of Cloud Nine Therapeutic Services. My passion is helping moms let go of the expectations before then, redefine motherhood and find themselves again within the chaos. I am here when you are ready to start your journey.